Child Safe Tips

When we think of a child molester we think of an adult and there are many adult child molesters. However, adolescents are responsible for a large number of rapes and child molestation cases. A study in 1993 found that adolescents were responsible for about one-half of the child molestation cases and about one-fifth of all rapes. This is one perpetrator we cannot forget when teaching our children what to watch for and what to do if someone tries to hurt them.

Studies have found that adolescent offenders have many traits in common. They are socially isolated; they have a hard time with socialization and they often feel socially inadequate. They have chronic learning problems, they may have been victimized in the past, they have anti-social traits (which may be a result of being victimized), alcohol or drugs were involved, and psychopathology was an issue before they victimized another. Some studies have found that adult child molesters were interested in abusing others sexually at a young age. This would account for some of the adolescent sexual abuse rates. There have been successful therapies when children, who want to abuse others, are helped at an early age.

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When people think of child molesters they typically think of men. The truth is there are female child molesters and they are just as manipulative and violent as male abusers. There are mothers that abuse their sons and use the premise of making each other feel good. One out of six boys will be sexually assaulted before they reach the age of 18. Therefore, there are a lot more female child molesters and predators than most people think.

The female abuse on young men is not discussed as frequently as male sexual offenders. Boys that have been abused typically do not tell because they feel so embarrassed. A boy feels a devastating sense of shame and tries to compensate for negative feelings about himself. Some male victims just decide to be angry and tough, because they are not going to be hurt again and they do not want to be seen as weak. Male victims often have negative feelings about themselves, they have a hard time trusting others, they have masculinity issues, problems with sexuality, feelings of anger, betrayal, and a deep sense of shame and humiliation. Female child molesters cannot be forgotten when teaching your children safety techniques.

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When a child molester is convicted of a crime, and they have finished their prison sentence, they are required to register with local authorities. This registration is designed to keep track of these dangerous criminals and to have up-to-date information on their physical descriptions. Convicted child molesters are required to update their information when they move to a new home or a new city. Different states have different requirements, but most offenders are required to update their information a few times a year whether they have moved or not. The purpose for this is to have current pictures. Child molesters know people look through databases to keep track of the molesters in their area. By changing their hair color or adding a beard they become less recognizable. Current information makes us all a bit safer.

Registered Offenders List offers one of the best child molester databases you can find. Our database offers a list of every sexual offender in your city. After entering your address you will receive detailed photos of the child molester, appearance details, a street address, neighborhood map, aliases, and the complete details of the molester’s conviction. Parents can also sign up to be notified when a child molester moves into their area. Our Red Alert Notifications will deliver all the information to your email and our services are 100% confidential.

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Child molesters can have adult sexual partners. They may be married and the marriage may come across as a happy, successful union. The molester may even love his wife, but he uses his role as the happy family man to build trust and gain access to children. Women also molest children and they too can use their roles to hide their crimes. Child molesters try to create lifestyles that allow them access to children. They have jobs that involve children, they volunteer in child organizations, they go to church, and they will go wherever they possible can to find a victim.

Child molesters target specific ages and genders. They may even choose children due to hair color, size, or eye color. Molesters will use manipulation to confuse the child; this confusion gives the molester more control. They may threaten their victims, bribe them, or convince them that they are in love with their molester. Child molesters network with other molesters and they enjoy child pornography. They may show a child the offensive material. Child molesters do not stop and they will continue to find victims. We must all take precautionary steps to protect our children.

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Child molesters know which children will be the easiest to abuse. Some look for children that are alone walking home or taking a short cut. Carlie Brucia was kidnapped as she walked home from her friend’s house. She took a shortcut behind a car wash. The man that raped and murdered her saw her walking on the road and he saw when she took the shortcut. Joseph Smith was caught on tape, convicted, and sentenced to death, but his capture was rare. Molesters that look for an opportunity to snatch a child are the most dangerous. Teach your children to fight and scream as much as they can if someone approaches them, because attackers do not want to bring attention.

Child molesters that kidnap use a lot of tricks. They will use the “I lost my dog” technique. They may have a fake badge, ask for help of any kind, offer candy or toys, or make any promise they think will work. Some may say that the child’s parents wanted him to pick them up. Developing a code word with your child is a good idea. Molesters will also approach children that look depressed and they can easily pick out victimized children. Teaching children how to be safe and what to avoid is necessary for all children.

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Catching child molesters should be a high priority for us all. However, this can be more difficult than it appears. To start, we can not clearly see who is a child molester and who is not. We do have databases to review with already convicted molesters, but the ones that have not been caught are also a problem. There are precautions we can take and preventative plans we can use just in case. For example, child molesters are using the Internet to find more victims. If we educate our children to beware of emails, private messages, and invitations to private chat rooms they will know they are being approached by someone that is very dangerous.

If we told our children to come get us when a situation like this occurs and the parents took over the conversation we could catch quite a few child molesters. Once you have something illegal- a proposition to meet or pornographic material sent by the other user you can contact police. Having possession of child pornography is a felony and the person will be put on the sexual offenders list when they are released from prison. Sending pictures or videos to your children is also a felony. Teach your kids ahead of time how to handle weird instances on the Internet and you may be able to catch a child molester.

Posted by Child Safety at 03:42 PM | Permalink

Statistics say that one out of every four girls and one out of every six boys will be sexually assaulted by their 18th birthday. When you think of those statistics as a parent you can only feel fear. Child molesters infiltrate our society and they stalk our children. Many children that are abused do not tell out of fear or not being believed or because they have been threatened. Our website has some information on behavioral signs of sexual abuse. If you suspect your child has been assaulted please calmly talk to your child and reassure them that it is ok to tell you about it. This may take some convincing and a lot of love. You can also seek help from a professional.

A child that has been sexually abused needs the help of a professional. Children that do not get help often have some severe problems later in life. Some examples include depression, anorexia, bulimia, alcohol and drug abuse, promiscuity, early pregnancy, cutting, and suicidal ideation. Childhood sexual abuse causes indescribable pain for the victim. Victims need their parents to stand up and fight for them, to be patient with them, and they need understanding. Professional intervention can and will make a huge difference in the lives of these innocent victims. Read about catching child molesters.

Posted by Child Safety at 03:39 PM | Permalink

Most people see child molesters as strangers that can be avoided if one is careful. However, child molesters are also friends with people and they have relatives. Many child molesters molest the children they have access to. If this means abusing their brother’s child or molesting a niece or nephew it is fine with them. They do not care and they do not feel bad. They will take advantage of the children close to them. Some may, at first, work hard to become friends with the child so they gain the child’s trust. They may take them for a walk, offer to baby sit, or go watch a movie with them in the other room. Their goal is to get the child away from everyone else.

Children will have some instant behavioral changes and more may come as time goes on. I big hint that your child is being molested by someone you know is the child’s response to them. If they do not want to be around them, they beg not to have to go, they act fearful, or their personality changes while in another adult’s presence there may be a problem.

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Some of these signs are normal when stressful events occur in a child’s life. One or two of these signs every once in awhile is okay also, but if you are seeing four or more of these signs at the same time there may be a problem and you should investigate.

• Sleeping Problems-Not wanting to sleep alone, night-mares, fear of the dark.


• Stomach Problems-Stomach pains, or illness, that occurs frequently with no apparent reason.


• New Friend-If your child is talking about a “new friend’ that is older; you may think it could be an imaginary friend. If your child says they have secrets with this older friend and cannot tell you what they are you should be concerned. You should explain that it is okay to tell Mommy or Daddy, but be aware that the child may have been told that something bad would happen if they told. Reassure them and be patient.


• Gifts Appear-If new gifts, items, or money suddenly show up you need to ask where they came from. Watch your child’s reaction to your question closely.


• Selective Areas of Fear-If your child does not want to see or be left alone with certain people you should pay attention and start asking questions. The child might also be opposed to being left at certain places because their abuser is there. If your child’s normal personality disappears with certain people or places there may be a problem.
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• Fear At Home-Child suddenly has fear of being home alone or has new fears about home.


• Fear of Monsters-A new fear of monsters could be a sign.


• Mood Swings-Crying, anger, sudden rage, withdrawal, excessive worry/anxiety symptoms, and fear can be a sign of abuse or other things.


• Large Changes in School Performance-If your child’s school performance drops or if their interactions with their peers changes suddenly there may be a problem.


• New Sexual Knowledge-If you child suddenly has new words for their private parts, engages in sexual play with dolls or other children, encourages other children to touch private parts, or if they start inappropriate kissing or touching then you have a clear sign that someone somewhere is teaching your child these things.


• Sudden Changes in Eating Habits-Loss of appetite, trouble eating or swallowing, anorexia, bulimia, or compulsive eating.


• Spacing out-Inability to concentrate, daydreaming, or in their own world.


• Regressive Behavior-When an older child suddenly starts sucking their thumb, bed wetting, or wanting to sleep with their parents.


• Some Adolescents Signs-Adolescents can start cutting, burning themselves, or start using drugs or alcohol to cope. They start to self-destruct. They many start dressing in a manner that hides their sexuality. They may try to become unattractive to others.


• Anxiety-Sudden anxiety with peers, authority figures, or adults, especially men.


• Bowel Movements- Toilet-trained children that start having accidents are a clear warning sign.


• Seductive Behavior-If a child starts acting in a seductive manner, starts hinting at or initiating sexual acts, or acts like they have an increased knowledge of sex there may be a problem.


• Depressive Behavior-crying episodes, isolation, suicidal ideation, or discussing suicide. Feelings of being “no good” are also a sign.


• Efforts to Please-A sudden effort to please those around them or gain excessive attention from adults.


• Becoming a Perpetrator-If your child is trying to influence other children to performing sexual acts, begins touching other children, or is inappropriately kissing a child there may be a problem.


• Excessive Anger-Anger, aggressive behavior, violent rages, and new hostile behaviors are also a sign.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:55 PM | Permalink

The effects of child molestation are devastating. Many feel only the children that have been raped really have lasting affects, but this is completely false. The manipulation, threats, fear, and loss of control all cause lasting affects. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder use to be a term associated with war, but many people face various traumas and end up with the disorder. One study found that about 80% of women that had been raped reported have PTSD symptoms. If your child or a friend was assaulted they may have PTSD. The criteria used by counselors to diagnose PTSD is below.

The person has been exposed to a traumatic event in which both of the following were present:

1. the person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event or events that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others


2. the person's response involved intense fear, helplessness, or horror. Note: In children, this may be expressed instead by disorganized or agitated behavior

The traumatic event is persistently re-experienced in one (or more) of the following ways:

1. recurrent and intrusive distressing recollections of the event, including images, thoughts, or perceptions.
   Note: In young children, repetitive play may occur in which themes or aspects of the trauma are expressed.


2. recurrent distressing dreams of the event. Note: In children, there may be frightening dreams without recognizable content.


3. acting or feeling as if the traumatic event were recurring (includes a sense of reliving the experience, illusions, hallucinations, and dissociative flashback episodes, including those that occur on awakening or when intoxicated).
   Note: In young children, trauma-specific reenactment may occur.


4. intense psychological distress at exposure to internal or external cues that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic event physiological reactivity on exposure to internal or external cues that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic event.

Persistent avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma and numbing of general responsiveness (not present before the trauma), as indicated by three (or more) of the following:

1. efforts to avoid thoughts, feelings, or conversations associated with the trauma


2. efforts to avoid activities, places, or people that arouse recollections of the trauma


3. inability to recall an important aspect of the trauma


4. markedly diminished interest or participation in significant activities


5. feeling of detachment or estrangement from others


6. restricted range of affect (e.g., unable to have loving feelings)


7. sense of a foreshortened future (e.g., does not expect to have a career, marriage, children, or a normal life span)

Persistent symptoms of increased arousal (not present before the trauma), as indicated by two (or more) of the following:

1. difficulty falling or staying asleep


2. irritability or outbursts of anger


3. difficulty concentrating


4. hypervigilance


5. exaggerated startle response

Duration of the disturbance (symptoms in Criteria B, C, and D) is more than 1 month.

The disturbance causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:44 PM | Permalink

The statistics say that one out of every three to four girls has been sexually assaulted by the age of 18. One boy out of every six will be abused by the age of 18. Although we have some reports and convictions to base these statistics on, they are actually not accurate. So many cases of child molestation go unreported each year, so we really cannot estimate the real numbers. The FBI reports that the National Institute for Mental Health found that only 1% to 10% of victims ever tell that they were abused. Boys report far less than girls.

• The average child molester will molest fifty girls before being caught and convicted.


• A child molester that seeks out boys will molest 150 boys before being caught and convicted and he will commit at least 280 sexual crimes in his lifetime.


• The standard pedophile will commit 117 sexual crimes in their lifetime.


• Most sexual abuse happens between the ages of 7 and 13.


• There are over 491,720 registered sex offenders in the United States.


• 80,000 to 100,000 of the above offenders are missing.


• Molesters known by the family or victim are the most common abusers. The “Acquaintance Molester” accounts for 70-90% of reported cases.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:41 PM | Permalink

Pedophiles have distinct characteristics and their preferred sexual objects are children. Pedophiles often have numerous victims and many claim to have abused hundreds or thousands of children. Pedophiles are narcissistic by nature and their bragging usually comes across as narcissistic. Pedophiles tend to like children of a certain age and they typically do not deviate from their preferred age range. Many prefer girls that are too young to get pregnant. The younger the girls are, the less chance of vaginal infections. Girls are reaching puberty at much younger ages, some as early as the 4th grade. “Eight is too late” is a phrase molesters often use.

Pedophiles also prefer one gender and they typically do not deviate from their preferred choice. There are both heterosexual and homosexual pedophiles, but there are far more heterosexuals pedophiles than homosexuals. In fact, the ratio is 11:1. Pedophiles will make every possible effort to be around children. They choose professions that will allow them to interact with children in their preferred age range. Child molesters have taken positions as youth pastors, boy-scout leaders, coaches, teachers, child-care providers, counselors, and employees at establishments that serve children. They slowly get to know their targets. They make friends with the child and start the “seduction” process. They try to become the child’s confidant and often offer email addresses, home addresses, and phone numbers. Child molesters remain patient and often have several children they are trying to seduce at the same time. This type of seduction is all about gaining trust with the child. Children are not attracted to their abusers, but they do start to trust them as a friend. Basically, these molesters get to know the child so well that when they do finally molest their victim they have information to blackmail them. For example, “Don’t you tell or I’ll tell your parents this…” They get to know their victims so well that they know how to manipulate them and confuse them. They essentially become stalkers, but they are not obvious. Pedophiles usually try to establish a great reputation in their communities. Once they have gained a good reputation people do not really pay attention, because they are trusted. This is why the seduction and stalking goes unnoticed.

Pedophiles like to collect things that relate to their sexual perversions. Some examples include pornographic pictures, pornographic videos, and books on sexuality. These items are often introduced to future victims. Remember when we talked about seduction? Well pornographic material is introduced and discussed. This interaction can later be used as blackmail, i.e. “I will tell your parents” or they can use it to confuse the child. Child molesters could say, “Well you acted like you were interested in…so I just tried to show you…it is your fault.” Other items include sex toys, photographic equipment, items for a private darkroom, and any items that children, in the preferred age range, would relate to.

Pedophilia and Types of Pedophiles
Pedophilia is not a curable condition. Pedophiles are sexually obsessed with children and their goal is to get close to children of their preferred age range. Pedophiles have obsessive-compulsive characteristics and they live within the sexual fantasies they create. Some actually believe that molestation is wanted by the children and that the children enjoy it. However, most know, deep down, that what they are doing is wrong; they just can’t stop.
Pedophiles can be married, single, male, female, bisexual, heterosexual, or homosexual. No matter what their sexual preferences are, pedophiles are often also attracted to adults. A pedophile that is attracted to both children and adults is called a Regressed Offender because they bounce back and forth between an adult sexual relationship and criminally assaulting children. There are two main types of pedophiles, the situational and the preferential. Situational Pedophiles will go after any group that is defenseless, such as the elderly, the mentally-challenged, the handicapped etc. This type prefers children, but will go after another group if they feel stressed. Preferential Pedophiles like children in a distinct age group and they typically do not deviate from this age group. Both pedophile groups have different sub-types:

The Situational Pedophile has three subtypes:

1. The Regressed Pedophile has the most balanced life of all the subtypes. They seek female victims and they enjoy the seduction process. This subtype will use child pornography as part of the seduction process and they use the Internet to find vulnerable victims. Female children are preferred, but they will go after a defenseless person if the stress in their life becomes too much. Regressed Pedophiles have many potential victims in mind. They take their time and move on the child when they feel safe. Although this type of pedophile is more stable than the others, they usually have insecurity issues and they have a hard time having successful interactions with other adults. This subtype prefers oral and vaginal intercourse.


2. The Indiscriminate Pedophiles are calm and often charismatic. They are more dangerous because they will try anything sexually and their main concern is their sexual fun at the victim’s expense. The seduction process is long and tedious. Great care is taken to bond with their future victim. The Indiscriminate Pedophile enjoys child pornography and they want children as their victims. They try to get to know friends of their victims and those children are usually targeted as their next victim.


3. The Immature Pedophile comes across as strange or weird. This type is more naive and less manipulative than the other groups. Their victims come from their own neighborhoods and although they have a preferred age range, they will deviate from it. They are happy fondling their victims, but they prefer anal sex and oral sex. The Immature Pedophile is less stable than the other subtypes and they tend to have a lot of stress to deal with.

1. The Seductive Pedophile is also known as the fixated type. They are usually homosexual men that prefer male victims. Their seduction process involves buying the future victim gifts or helping them with various things. They became a friend the victim can lean on. As the bond grows sexual innuendo is slowly brought in to the relationship. The may show them pornographic pictures or videos. The aim to confuse their victim about sex and then once the abuse begins they blame the victim. They often have friends that are also pedophiles and they network. This network uses the Internet to find victims and search for pornography. They have a list of potential victims and they know where to find them.


2. The Sadistic Pedophile is grotesque when it comes to sexual preferences. They severely abuse their victims and sometimes kill them. They search for the perfect victim and they will travel long distances to gain access to the victim. They stalk and then attack and/or abduct their victim. Their abductions are typically designed to confuse the parents and the authorities. This type of pedophile is usually intelligent and middle to upper class. They like to be on the move and they like change.

Also, read about child molester characteristics.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:36 PM | Permalink

The majority of children will not admit to the abuse even if they are asked. For various reasons children do not report the abuse and sexual abuse is not always obvious. There are warning signs of sexual abuse or behavioral signs that indicate abuse has occurred. Many times very young victims do not understand that they are being abused. They may understand later, but at the time they have no knowledge that the abuse is wrong.

The statistics on victims reporting are shocking. More than thirty percent of victims will never tell anyone that they were ever abused. About eighty percent will deny the abuse when first asked or are afraid to admit it. Seventy-five percent of victims that tell often do by accident; it just blurts out. More than twenty percent will recant their story even when abuse has occurred.

Many say that children lie about the abuse. Young children have nothing to reference to when discussing sexual activity unless they have experienced it. Sexual abuse reports that were fabricated account for only one to four percent of all the reported cases. Adults file seventy-five percent of these false reports. Fabricated stories by children occur about one-half percent of the time.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:35 PM | Permalink

Child molestation and child abduction is a growing concern. You should always accompany your child wherever he or she goes. There are several crooks out in the corner that are just looking for a chance to get to your child. Ironically, most of these sex offenders pose to be very humble and you won’t get any clue as to what is going on in his mind. It is also important to understand that even though a person has one or more of the distinctiveness connected with being a child molester, it does not always mean that he or she has not yet acted upon his or her urges to mistreat a child. The most common traits which can be seen in a child molester is that he might seem to be excessively interested in children and intentionally looks forward to be alone with children. Often a child molester makes some elusive comments on the sexual development of the child. Talking to the children over the phone unnecessarily, sending emails or taking the child out alone or showering the child with expensive gifts and offering free care to children form some of the major child molester characteristics. So if you detect these traits in any person then you must keep your child away from him since your child is less likely to know what is going to happen.

Read about child molestation statistics.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:25 PM | Permalink

Some child molesters that have been caught have admitted that they abused children for a very long time. Many said they abused hundreds of children before they were caught. Child molesters do not stop; they cannot stop. Therefore, those that take care of children need to take as many precautions as possible. State laws require convicted child molesters to register with local police when they are released from prison. When they register a picture is taken and a profile is created. The profile will include descriptive information such as eye color, hair color, height, weight, current address, and distinguishing features like scars and tattoos. You can access this information using our child molester database and our database will give you a map with locations of molesters in your city. This information can help you and children in your direct area avoid dangerous individuals.

It is important that parents know that sex offenders do disappear and some do not register when they move. Plus, there are many molesters that have not been caught. A child molester database can help you with known convicts, but everyone must be careful because of those unknown molesters. Teach your kids how to deal with strangers, what kinds of behavior are not acceptable by adults (many molesters know the child and the parents), and keep a close eye on them.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:22 PM | Permalink

Child molesters can be anyone. There are male and female molesters that come from every age group and socioeconomic group. There are no clear identifying marks when looking at a molester. However, some will give themselves away when interacting with children. If you have a funny feeling about someone, go with your gut and keep your kids away from them. There are many child molesters that act so well they could win an Oscar. Some do not give themselves away. Some good examples include the teachers we see on the news almost weekly. The scary truth is that almost anyone can be a child molester and most have not been caught.

If you have a child that is too young to tell you when something is wrong you and you need a child care provider there are safe ways to find one. First, talk with friends or co-workers. Word-of-mouth is important and personal references are important. Safety is the #1 priority so take the time and spend the money to find the right person to care for your child. If you have children that are old enough to communicate well you can teach them what situation to avoid, how to deal with strangers, and what to do if an adult they know does something that makes them uncomfortable.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:21 PM | Permalink

When you search a child molester database you will come across a profile for each offender. The information given includes height, weight, hair color, eye color, and distinguishing marks such as tattoos or scars. You will also be given the address and zip code for each child molester. If you know someone is in your zip code, but you don’t know where the street is located you can use Mapquest or Yahoo Maps to find any address.

Child Molester profiles will also include information relating to the crime they created and sort of the age of their victim. Most of the time, the profile will say, “Child Under the age of 16” or “Child Under the age of 12”. This is important because the age of the victim indicates what ages the child molester is attracted to. It is important to remember that child molesters can change their appearance. They can add or lose weight, grow a beard or mustache, or change their hair. However, height cannot change, not can eye color. Tattoos can be altered, but pictures should be taken every 6 months. If you have a child molester in your area it would be beneficial to print it and pay close attention to the picture.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:18 PM | Permalink

So you search the sex offender databases and you find out you have child molester in your neighborhood. What should you do next? To start, print out the molesters profile and picture. Share it with your spouse and children that are old enough to understand what they are looking at. Showing a picture to a child 6 and under may scare them more than help them. Older children should be aware so they can look out for themselves and their siblings.

The next thing you could do is have multiple copies of the profile and picture made. You can share them with all the people in your neighborhood. Recruit friends to help you pass them out or have a neighborhood meeting and share the information. You can also pass the information on to businesses close to your neighborhood, especially if it is a business kids go to frequently. Share it with everyone you can and give them the link to the database. You could even collect email addresses for easy communications later. You should check the database, at a minimum, every three months. If the child molester is still near you, look to see if the molester has changed their appearance. Share updated information with neighbors. Read more about finding sex offenders.

Posted by Child Safety at 02:14 PM | Permalink

Jessica Lunsford was taken from her home in the middle of the night by a man that had worked at her elementary school. She was kept alive for an unconfirmed amount of days, raped repeatedly, and then buried alive. The Jessica Lunsford Act proposes significant changes regarding sexual offenders and has already been passed in Florida. Below is a list of changes proposed by this act.

• Increase the penalty for lewd and lascivious molestation of a child to life in prison or a split sentence of mandatory minimum 25-year prison term. When releases their will be lifetime supervision with electronic monitoring.


• Increase the period of time a sexual predator must wait to petition for the sexual designation to be removed from 20 to 30 years.


• Increase the sexual predator/offender registration and reporting requirements.


• Sexual predators/offenders that murder their victims now qualifyfor the death penalty in capital cases.


• Designate failing to re-register as a sexual offender/predator, harboring a sexual offender/predator, or assisting a sexual offender/predator a third degree felony.


• Require those already convicted of sex crimes to have electronic monitoring for the remainder of their probation.


• Require all county misdemeanor probation officials to search the sexual offender registry when a new offender is assigned to them.

Posted by Child Safety at 05:35 PM | Permalink

People often think of a scary looking, yucky guy when they think of a sex offender and that may be true in some cases. However, scary looking molesters are not the majority. There are female molesters, teenage molesters, male molesters, and sexual predators of every type. The scary thing for parents today is anyone you know could be a child molester! Police officers, pastors, priests, school employees, bankers, gym employees, babysitters, next door neighbors, friends, best friends, and in most cases someone in your family could be a child molester. It is a terrifying thought for parents, because you just cannot let anyone watch your child(ren) anymore.

This article is not meant to scare anyone, but hopefully educate parents so possible molestation will not take place. There are things you should watch for and/or warning signs you should watch for. Child molesters will go after children that they have access to; this is why they choose jobs that give them easy access. Child molesters work hard to gain time alone with their future victim. If you have someone in your family or a friend that is consistently trying to gain “alone time” with your child there may be a problem.

If a family member or friend wants to hang out with you and your child is there than that is fine. A child molester will try to get your child to go in the other room for awhile, go for a walk, go on a boat ride, go to the movies, go to the park etc. They need alone time to “groom” or “seduce” your child. They start out being really “cool” by taking the child to fun places or bringing them gifts, but that changes pretty quickly. The grooming or seduction process is all about gaining trust with your child, gaining power of your child, and finally being able to abuse them without the child telling. This is their goal and considering the sexual abuse statistics they do a pretty good job at it.

1 out of every 3-4 girls will be sexually assaulted by the age of 18.
1 out of every 6 boys will be sexually assaulted by the age of 18,

There are child molesters that abduct children and you need to be very careful with your children because they jump at the chance to grab a child. Child molesters that kidnap are afraid to let heir victims go. The victim is a witness and they do not want any witnesses; Carlie Brucia and Jessica Lunsford are two examples none of us will forget. There are also molesters or predators on the Internet that try to groom children, confuse children, introduce them to pornography, and hopefully meet the child to molest, rape, and/or murder them. You need to have conversations with your children about the dangers of the Internet.

Perhaps the best, recent example of anyone being a child molester is Brian J. Doyle, the deputy press secretary for the Department of Homeland Security (DHS). Mr. Doyle thought he was talking to a 14 year old girl that was a cancer survivor, but he was really talking to the police in Polk County, Florida. According to police Doyle was sexually explicit from the beginning. He thought the “girl” would pose naked for him, so he kept communicating, as much as possible. In fact, police say he was obsessed; so obsessed that he gave the “girl” his cell phone numbers, instant messaging address, and his DHS work number. Doyle also used his work computer to have sexually explicit conversations with, what was really, a female officer. Over a two week period, Doyle told this “girl” everything he wanted to do with her in detail. He sent pornographic pictures, video clips, and tried to convince his victim to get a web-cam. The conversations and messages are so sexually explicit, police will not release them.

Brian J. Doyle worked as news and assignment editor at Time Magazine’s Washington Bureau. He later joined the Transportation Security Administration. He has a spotless record and worked hard to gain a position in the highest levels of our government. He probably made a lot of people feel safe with him. Brian J. Doyle was very comfortable speaking sexually to his victim and it was obviously not his first time. Doyle, like many others, was using the Internet to gain another victim. Police in every state are working hard to catch these people, but they cannot catch them all. The police need your help.

Educate your children and watch their computers. If you find out your child has been approached in a chat-room, on a website like MySpace, or on an instant messaging program you need to contact your local police department. If you get one molester off the street you could potentially save hundreds of children from being abused. There are programs you can use to see everything that goes on in your child’s computer. Please see out article: Software You Can Buy to Keep Your Children Safe and please read our article on Internet Safety Tips; this article tells you what to say to your children to avoid potential problems. The most important tip is to tell your kids that they will NOT be in trouble if they come tell you they were sent a pornographic picture or video. They need to know that you will not be mad at them, so it feels safe to come to you.

• Sending a pornographic picture or video to any child is a felony.


• Child molesters, that have been caught, admit that they talk with other molesters on the Internet and their goal is to meet with their victim. They seem to work together to gain another victim.


• Anyone caught sending sexually explicit pictures or videos will be listed in the child sexual offender databases. They will be forever known as someone that sexually abused a child; sending this material to a child is abuse.


• Parents that have reported inappropriate/illegal behavior to the police have given everyone another face and name to look out for. Some have brought down a ring of child molesters.


• If we are going to continue to allow our children to use the Internet it is our duty, as parents, to watch what they are doing and report illegal behavior.

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