Child Safe Tips

Pedophiles have distinct characteristics and their preferred sexual objects are children. Pedophiles often have numerous victims and many claim to have abused hundreds or thousands of children. Pedophiles are narcissistic by nature and their bragging usually comes across as narcissistic. Pedophiles tend to like children of a certain age and they typically do not deviate from their preferred age range. Many prefer girls that are too young to get pregnant. The younger the girls are, the less chance of vaginal infections. Girls are reaching puberty at much younger ages, some as early as the 4th grade. “Eight is too late” is a phrase molesters often use.

Pedophiles also prefer one gender and they typically do not deviate from their preferred choice. There are both heterosexual and homosexual pedophiles, but there are far more heterosexuals pedophiles than homosexuals. In fact, the ratio is 11:1. Pedophiles will make every possible effort to be around children. They choose professions that will allow them to interact with children in their preferred age range. Child molesters have taken positions as youth pastors, boy-scout leaders, coaches, teachers, child-care providers, counselors, and employees at establishments that serve children. They slowly get to know their targets. They make friends with the child and start the “seduction” process. They try to become the child’s confidant and often offer email addresses, home addresses, and phone numbers. Child molesters remain patient and often have several children they are trying to seduce at the same time. This type of seduction is all about gaining trust with the child. Children are not attracted to their abusers, but they do start to trust them as a friend. Basically, these molesters get to know the child so well that when they do finally molest their victim they have information to blackmail them. For example, “Don’t you tell or I’ll tell your parents this…” They get to know their victims so well that they know how to manipulate them and confuse them. They essentially become stalkers, but they are not obvious. Pedophiles usually try to establish a great reputation in their communities. Once they have gained a good reputation people do not really pay attention, because they are trusted. This is why the seduction and stalking goes unnoticed.

Pedophiles like to collect things that relate to their sexual perversions. Some examples include pornographic pictures, pornographic videos, and books on sexuality. These items are often introduced to future victims. Remember when we talked about seduction? Well pornographic material is introduced and discussed. This interaction can later be used as blackmail, i.e. “I will tell your parents” or they can use it to confuse the child. Child molesters could say, “Well you acted like you were interested in…so I just tried to show you…it is your fault.” Other items include sex toys, photographic equipment, items for a private darkroom, and any items that children, in the preferred age range, would relate to.

Pedophilia and Types of Pedophiles
Pedophilia is not a curable condition. Pedophiles are sexually obsessed with children and their goal is to get close to children of their preferred age range. Pedophiles have obsessive-compulsive characteristics and they live within the sexual fantasies they create. Some actually believe that molestation is wanted by the children and that the children enjoy it. However, most know, deep down, that what they are doing is wrong; they just can’t stop.
Pedophiles can be married, single, male, female, bisexual, heterosexual, or homosexual. No matter what their sexual preferences are, pedophiles are often also attracted to adults. A pedophile that is attracted to both children and adults is called a Regressed Offender because they bounce back and forth between an adult sexual relationship and criminally assaulting children. There are two main types of pedophiles, the situational and the preferential. Situational Pedophiles will go after any group that is defenseless, such as the elderly, the mentally-challenged, the handicapped etc. This type prefers children, but will go after another group if they feel stressed. Preferential Pedophiles like children in a distinct age group and they typically do not deviate from this age group. Both pedophile groups have different sub-types:

The Situational Pedophile has three subtypes:

1. The Regressed Pedophile has the most balanced life of all the subtypes. They seek female victims and they enjoy the seduction process. This subtype will use child pornography as part of the seduction process and they use the Internet to find vulnerable victims. Female children are preferred, but they will go after a defenseless person if the stress in their life becomes too much. Regressed Pedophiles have many potential victims in mind. They take their time and move on the child when they feel safe. Although this type of pedophile is more stable than the others, they usually have insecurity issues and they have a hard time having successful interactions with other adults. This subtype prefers oral and vaginal intercourse.


2. The Indiscriminate Pedophiles are calm and often charismatic. They are more dangerous because they will try anything sexually and their main concern is their sexual fun at the victim’s expense. The seduction process is long and tedious. Great care is taken to bond with their future victim. The Indiscriminate Pedophile enjoys child pornography and they want children as their victims. They try to get to know friends of their victims and those children are usually targeted as their next victim.


3. The Immature Pedophile comes across as strange or weird. This type is more naive and less manipulative than the other groups. Their victims come from their own neighborhoods and although they have a preferred age range, they will deviate from it. They are happy fondling their victims, but they prefer anal sex and oral sex. The Immature Pedophile is less stable than the other subtypes and they tend to have a lot of stress to deal with.

The Preferential Pedophile has two subtypes:

1. The Seductive Pedophile is also known as the fixated type. They are usually homosexual men that prefer male victims. Their seduction process involves buying the future victim gifts or helping them with various things. They became a friend the victim can lean on. As the bond grows sexual innuendo is slowly brought in to the relationship. The may show them pornographic pictures or videos. The aim to confuse their victim about sex and then once the abuse begins they blame the victim. They often have friends that are also pedophiles and they network. This network uses the Internet to find victims and search for pornography. They have a list of potential victims and they know where to find them.


2. The Sadistic Pedophile is grotesque when it comes to sexual preferences. They severely abuse their victims and sometimes kill them. They search for the perfect victim and they will travel long distances to gain access to the victim. They stalk and then attack and/or abduct their victim. Their abductions are typically designed to confuse the parents and the authorities. This type of pedophile is usually intelligent and middle to upper class. They like to be on the move and they like change.

Pedophiles-Child Molesters-Sexual Offenders
Pedophiles, child molesters, sexual offenders…all these names apply to those that stalk and molest our children. They are dangerous and often invisible to us. You can take precautions to protect your children from the unknown child molesters, but you have a great resource for convicted child molesters. The Registered Offender List offers a list of every convicted sexual offender in your city. After entering your address you will receive detailed photos of the child molester, appearance details, a neighborhood map, street address, aliases, and the complete details of the molester’s conviction. Parents can also sign up to be notified when a child molester moves into their area. We urge you to use our database to keep your children safe.

Also, read about child molester characteristics.